Sometimes You Don’t Know You’re Overwhelmed Until You Stop
Have you ever had one of those weeks where you’re doing fine? Busy, definitely. Maybe a little tired. But fine. You’re answering emails. Going to work. Making dinner. Remembering appointments. Having conversations. Handling whatever gets thrown at you. You’re functioning. And then Saturday morning comes. You don’t have anywhere you need to be. Nobody needs […]
Why Some Days the Same Task Feels Completely Different
There are days when I can sit down at my computer, knock out half my to-do list, answer emails, make appointments, run errands, figure out dinner, and somehow still have enough brainpower left to have an actual conversation at the end of the day. And then there are days when I stare at an email […]
Why We Sometimes Need to Say Things Out Loud to Think
Have you ever been trying to figure something out in your head for what feels like forever, only to finally say it out loud and immediately think: “Oh. There it is.” Suddenly, the thing that made absolutely no sense five seconds ago makes perfect sense. Or maybe you’re the person who sends a friend a […]
Executive Function Isn’t About Intelligence
One of the comments I heard most often while Gabe was growing up sounded like a compliment. “He’s so smart.” And he is. He’s curious. He notices details other people miss. He can have incredibly thoughtful conversations, especially about topics that interest him. When something clicks, it really clicks. But those same conversations often ended […]
Your Brain Was Never Meant to Remember Everything
We’ve all heard it. “Just remember.” “Don’t forget.” “You need to be more organized.” “Maybe write it down.” (Which is always my favorite advice because…where did I write down where I wrote the thing down?) The funny thing is that we’ve somehow accepted this idea that the human brain should be able to remember hundreds […]
Why One Task Feels Like 17 Steps
“It’s just one task.” It’s a phrase that gets used often, usually with good intentions. The goal is to simplify something that feels overwhelming. But for many neurodivergent individuals, that phrase doesn’t match the reality of how tasks are experienced. Because what looks like one task on the outside rarely feels that way on the […]
Knowing What to Do Doesn’t Mean You Can Do It
It’s one of the most frustrating experiences for both individuals and the people supporting them. You know what needs to be done. You understand the assignment, the expectation, or the next step. On paper, everything is clear. And yet, despite that understanding, nothing happens. This gap between knowing and doing is often misunderstood. It’s easy […]
How to Make Tasks Easier to Start
Starting is often the hardest part. Not because the task itself is difficult, but because getting to the point of beginning requires more than just intention. It requires clarity, structure, and a clear understanding of what to do next. When those pieces aren’t in place, even simple tasks can feel impossible to begin. Why […]
Getting Started is the Hardest Part: A Real Talk on Task Initiation
Task initiation is the ability to start a task — not just knowing it needs to be done but actually beginning it. It’s a key part of executive functioning and involves overcoming the inertia between “I should” and “I’m doing it.”
Neurodivergent Dad
Fatherhood, It’s a beautiful, messy, and often overwhelming experience for anyone. But for neurodivergent dads like myself add a cocktail of anxiety, ADHD, depression among others…
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